reFrame™ is a pattern-detection tool for people who know something is wrong but can't name it, that builds your ability to communicate through conflict — by catching the manipulation tactics others use on you and the habits you don't realize you have.
Try It Free — No Signup RequiredYour messages are never stored. Ever.
Most communication tools only look at what you write. reFrame™ is the first to analyze both sides — what you've received and what you're about to send.
Paste what someone sent you. reFrame™ tells you exactly what patterns are present — gaslighting, manipulation, blame-shifting, threats. You're not crazy. Now you can see it.
Paste what you're about to say. reFrame™ scans for contempt, criticism, defensiveness, manipulation, and 15+ toxic patterns — then offers a reframed version that preserves your intent without the damage.
reFrame™'s detection engine is built on 40+ years of relationship psychology research, including Gottman's Four Horsemen. It catches what you can't see in the moment.
Curious what's hiding in your messages?
Analyze a Message Free →Here's what happens when you paste a real message into reFrame™. No fluff. No therapy-speak. Just the truth about what's in the text.
Not every message is a red flag. When someone communicates with genuine accountability, empathy, or a willingness to repair — reFrame™ highlights it.
Abuse and toxic relationships can break your “normal meter.” reFrame™ helps you recalibrate — not just by catching manipulation, but by showing you what healthy communication actually looks like.
reFrame™'s patent-pending CPI engine analyzes both what you're about to send AND what you received — detecting toxic patterns like gaslighting and contempt alongside healthy patterns like accountability and repair attempts. Across 12 relationship types, CPI calibrates detection to your specific context — because the same words mean different things from a boss, a partner, or a parent.
Every reframed message is built on three principles — the same principles that 40 years of relationship research say predict whether a conversation heals or destroys.
Responding instead of reacting. Every destructive message starts with emotional flooding. Regulation is the pause between feeling and action.
Protecting both people’s dignity. Not just your point — their humanity too. Communication that preserves the relationship even during disagreement.
Leaving room to heal. Is what you’re about to say going to leave this relationship able to recover? Or are you burning a bridge you’ll need tomorrow?
Your clients make breakthroughs in session. Then they pick up their phone at 11 PM and react. reFrame™ lives in that gap — catching patterns in real-time, reinforcing the skills you're teaching, and building self-awareness through repetition.
Built on Gottman's Four Horsemen, attachment theory, and principles from DBT and Nonviolent Communication. Free for your clients. No account required.
Talk to us about reFrame™ for your practice →“This literally changed my life. I was about to send something that would have destroyed a relationship. reFrame caught it.”
— Sarah M.
“My brother and I hadn’t spoken in two years. I used reFrame to write the message that reconnected us. It saw things I couldn’t.”
— James T.
“Mind blown. I pasted my ex’s text and it found three manipulation tactics I didn’t have words for. I’m not crazy.”
— Denise R.
Whether you're writing it or reading it — see what's really there before it's too late.
Try reFrame™ FreeNo signup. No data stored. Just truth.